[Published by MomClick Utah and The Daily Herald here] The other day, I heard a grandfather talk about a phone call he received from his daughter. She told him how his elementary school grandson had been teased and bullied at his local church when he wore glasses for the first time. Frequently we hear nationwide news about bullying-related youth suicides. Quite often, many of my clients suffering from anxiety mention that at some time in their middle school or high school years they were bullied. Do kids who get bullied become anxious, or are anxious kids more likely to get bullied? The truth is, it can be both. Children who are bullied will experience trauma and thus will develop anxiety and may need professional help to overcome that neg
Below is a funny little video I found about Mindfulness. When I show it to my clients, they just smile because they know the “science guy” is talking about them. Some of us think and worry too much about the future. Some of us indeed can start a “fight-or-flight” response just sitting in our living room. It is a good idea to plan and prepare for the future; however, it’s not a good idea to worry about things we cannot control. Check it out:
I love this quote. I found it recently by reading Brené Brown’s “The Gift of Imperfection.” She quotes E.E. Cummings and she talks about the need to be authentic and how we need to embrace who we are. She says: Choosing authenticity means: Cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; Exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle; and Nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough. She goes on by saying: “Authenticity demands Wholehearted living and loving—even when it’s hard, even when we’re wrestling with the shame and fear of not being good enough, and especially when the
An Update from the NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health): Exposure / Ritual Prevention Therapy Boosts Antidepressant Treatment of OCD This is another study that confirms Exposure and Ritual Prevention (a specific form of cognitive behavior therapy) makes a significant difference in treating OCD. Read the article here.
[View original article published in Psych Central here] Patty was feeling frustrated and depressed. No matter what she tried, she felt she was stuck. As a young child, she remembers she would come unglued if anyone walked in her room and messed up her belongings. She would arrange and rearrange things until they felt just right. When going to school, she remembered asking her mom if her hair looked perfect. Her mom would say, “You look beautiful!” Patty didn’t believe her. She would ask her mom to fix it better, or she would try to do it herself until it felt right. She wanted to be the best at everything she tried, but when things didn’t go as she expected, sadness and depression ensued. Her all-or-nothing thinking was getting in the way
October 10th was designated as Mental Health Day. Every day is a mental health day for me when I see my clients try to make their life better despite their suffering. If you suffer with a mental health illness, don’t hesitate to share your struggles. You may be surprised that your friend, boss, best friend’s daughter or spouse may also be experiencing emotional and mental pain. Successful men and women with a mental illness can be an example to society and can contribute to the idea that a mental disorder does not define the person. Society needs to understand that a person can be “normal” and still have mental health challenges. I love Kevin Breel’s Ted talk. He is right on with his message. Let’s stop intolerance and
I recently discovered a talk given by Kelly McGonigal, a health psychologist. Her topic was stress. I felt validated as I have been telling my clients who experience stress to make it their friend. I usually teach them skills to change their attitude towards stress or anxiety. It is their attitude that will make the difference. McGonigal reports that for the past 10 years she has been teaching that stress makes people sick. However, she changed her approach towards stress after reading a study. She discovered that indeed, stress is harmful, but only when people believe it’s harmful. Below are the most relevant points in her talk. 1. If we believe that the physiological sensations and feelings we experience when we are stressed are h
[View original article published in Psych Central here] I imagine that even Kate Middleton (the Duchess of Cambridge in England’s monarchy) will experience her son, Prince George, throwing temper tantrums when he doesn’t get his way or is asked to do something he doesn’t want to do. The prince, despite his royal heritage and training in comportment, might even be bossy with other children his age. Do you sometimes feel like you’ve tried everything, and aren’t sure if your child will ever attain self-control? Being a parent is challenging; when you have a strong-willed child it can be a source of serious stress and conflict. Here are some suggestions to help: Awareness. It’s been said that before you can change a behavior, you must first be
When children are afraid about the unknown (new school, new grade, new house, etc), how do you handle it? Do you reassure them and say, “it’ll be okay, don’t worry about it” or do you try to help them process their thoughts and feelings? Our children need to know we understand how they feel. Don’t try to fix the worry or dismiss it; instead, validate their feelings and empathize with them. Here are additional ideas to help you with this process. 1. Read: “The Very Hungry Caterpillar” to get your child thinking about caterpillars and butterflies. 2. Invite your child to draw a caterpillar, a cocoon, and a butterfly. 3. The other day I was helping one of my young clients with her fears. I decided to use my caterpillar/butterfly puppe
Take a quick look at America’s state of mind: Most likely you know more than one person who is suffering from anxiety. Are they doing anything about it? Are they getting the right help? Show them this infographic from OnlinePsychologyDegree.net and encourage them to seek help. There is no reason to suffer in silence.